7 Characteristics of a Conscious Relationship
Times have changed since you got married just because you were supposed to. That it was the “thing” to do. Yeah, you wanted kids and loved the idea of “till death do us part” but in reality, many times death of the marriage came too soon. We entered into it somewhat blind to what lie lurking beneath the surface. The unconscious motivations we had for selecting a certain partner. The old patterns which keep playing out in our relationships that we just chalked up to “that’s the way I am”.
Not to mention the clichés and societal norms we’ve accepted as being true when you are part of a couple: The honeymoon won’t last, the ‘ol ball and chain” even comedians made fun of marriage with “take my wife, please!”…
I’ve often noticed there are people who treat their friends with more respect than they do their partners, as friendships are considered fragile. If they are not nurtured and cared for, they will wither and die. Whereas you have taken a vow to stay with your partner, no matter what, for better or worse. Why is it we can be our “worse” with our partners?
As people become more conscious, they start looking at all aspects of their lives and make decisions from that place. Not just agreeing to go into something because it’s “better than nothing”. They are deliberately intending to create the relationship they desire. While not an easy task, it increases the probability that the relationship will last longer than going into it blindly in love.
There are certain characteristics to creating and attracting a conscious relationship and I have identified 7 specific ones here:
1) Your partner wants you to be the best version of you and encourages you to have your own interests. Remember the person you were when they first were attracted and fell in love with you. That’s the person they want to be with, not who you think they want you to be.
2) You both understand that you are two separate souls who have your own journey and are still developing throughout this lifetime. You are together because you choose to be together.
3) A conscious relationship will mirror back to you all the things you are unaware of about yourself. Your fears, your insecurities, your past hurts…they present an opportunity for you to shed light on habits and patterns that may no longer be serving you.
4) The more conscious you become the more you will energetically attract someone at your vibrational level. As your awareness grows you will tap into the connectedness of everything and you will be vibrating at a higher level. You will start noticing that those who are at a lower vibrationally energetic level will no longer be as attractive to you.
5) When problems or conflict arise, you see it as an opportunity to see what is beneath the surface and see how there is never one person to blame in a relationship. When you can see your partners perspective it is much easier to come to a resolution.
6) Confront your fears which rear their heads in relationships. They surface in relationships so they can be healed. This is where your ego will step in to try and protect you. Thank it for doing it’s job and tell it “you’ve got this”. This is an opportunity to work through them, not bolt.
7) You will attract what you need to evolve. Always reflect your inner connectedness to how much love you can give and receive in your life.
